MAC
06-29-2004, 06:32 PM
Britney Spears Engaged to Dancer Boyfriend (http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A7222-2004Jun26.html)
Just months after annulling her quickie wedding to a childhood friend, pop idol Britney Spears is ready for another trip to the altar.
Her personal publicist and her label, Jive Records, both confirmed Friday that the 22-year-old singer is engaged to marry her new boyfriend, dancer Kevin Federline.
No further details were immediately available.
But Federline reportedly has been dating Spears for about two months and moved in with her after she underwent arthroscopic surgery two weeks ago to repair a knee injury she suffered while shooting a music video.
According to media reports, Federline, 26, has a 2-year-old daughter by his ex-girlfriend, former "Moesha" TV actress Shar Jackson, who also is pregnant with a second child.
Federline reportedly met Spears during her 2000 tour, when he was in the opening act, and also was a backup dancer for Spear's former beau, pop star Justin Timberlake, at the 2002 MTV Video Music Awards.
Spears and Federline were first captured by photographers together in Santa Monica, California, in April and were chased by the paparazzi again during her European tour.
Their engagement comes fewer than six months after Spears was granted an annulment in early January to dissolve her surprise two-day marriage in Las Vegas to a childhood pal, Jason Allen Alexander.
Spears, whose latest album, "In the Zone," was released in November, announced last week that she was canceling her North American summer tour dates while she recovers from knee surgery.
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so...he and his ex-girlfriend have one kid and she is pregnant with another
but that's over! he's in love with britney and they're gonna get married!!!
well, it's ok, it's hollywood.
ladies and pregnant men, I find it amazing how ppl are so willing to suspend their understanding of human nature for the sake of "love" yet they refuse to stop believing in gravity and time. (two things you can neither see nor measure without special tools made by ppl who believe in such heresy)
Now, who am I to preach about building a relationship?
I'm me! The L0v3 Lo53r!!
So lets start off with the worst and work our way down to the plausible.
1) Young.
Youth promises ONE thing. They will grow up and change. I wish everyone the best but outside of poetry and 1950's movies young love is not designed to outlast your video rental late charges. It only trains us to pursue love. It has a 1/2 life of 30-120 days. (as with all 1/2 lives the other half may be a year or more) but the good side is you fall in love, you feel great, you have fun and when it gets weird, you get mad/sad/whatever and break up. (hopefully you two where the only "kids" involved) Young love is d00med!!! Yet we are drawn to it. So, it’s death serves a purpose.
2) Desperate
Just broke up, unhappy in the current relationship, the unbearable weight of life crushing the soul, type of person. These are the ppl who hook up because there's no other light in their bleak dark universe! [/melodrama] I think one of the most disrespectful things you can do to someone you love is to hand them the baggage you worked so hard to pack for yourself. But then again, anyone stupid enough to think that you got where you are because of life treating you poorly deserves to watch the train wreck from the tracks.
The good side to this is that carry on bags can be filled with good stuff if good ppl will stop and fill them before the trip and the emotional baggage may get lost when you change planes. (don’t wait at the carousel!)
3) Horny
I know! I know! You're thinking "But MAC! Horny applies to the first two as well."
Yes, it finds it's way into everything. But “horny” all by itself ranks higher than the first two because what you want from the relationship is much clearer and easier to achieve. Unfortunately, while the first two have a bright potential, horny does not. Horny just ends up with you, years later, wondering why everything you did was based around being horny. But up until then, I’ve been assured, you’ll pretty much be happy with what you get out of it (except for AIDS that would suck)
4) By Design
“By design” relationships are one of the most plausible forms of relationships IF and ONLY IF both parties understand what they expect from their design. Most ppl find something un-romantic about this but be honest; if you are relying on and sharing with someone wouldn’t you want to know that they depend on you to give them something they can’t just buy in a store?
Examples:
Some guys just want to come home to a clean house and a dinner. They will marry and put up with bitches of the foulest caliber. But the bitch will have the house clean and dinner ready.
Some gals want the security of money and a successful man. They will tolerate him being gone to work all the time and raise the kids by themselves but when she wants that new Cadillac, he writes a check for it.
Now you can see how this can become a hollow arrangement. But only if the two ppl are so shallow and selfish that they are only concerned about their own “design” Normally people with successful relationships have quietly arranged their design and look for it subconsciously. Many, many long term marriages from other wise healthy relationships break up because one thing about one person changes and suddenly the “design” doesn’t work. It makes me sick to see “loving couples” so inflexible that one alteration in motivations destroys the relationship (except when that motivation becomes drugs)
5) Succession of hostilities
The most reliable way to have a successful relationship is to stop fighting it.
How much more can be said about that?
We fancy the ability to flex our free will and choose who we love. But that’s not how love works. Success requires that some end goal be met, and you only function within a certain set of parameters. You simply have to stop fighting your heart. Quit telling yourself that certain things matter and you MUST have them and other things DON’T matter and you should be ashamed for even noticing them. A relationship is a matter of balance The hearts in play are weights and the circumstances are the arms of the scale.
So stop fighting the leverage and see how you measure up.
Or marry that dog of a dancer from your ex bf’s last tour
Just months after annulling her quickie wedding to a childhood friend, pop idol Britney Spears is ready for another trip to the altar.
Her personal publicist and her label, Jive Records, both confirmed Friday that the 22-year-old singer is engaged to marry her new boyfriend, dancer Kevin Federline.
No further details were immediately available.
But Federline reportedly has been dating Spears for about two months and moved in with her after she underwent arthroscopic surgery two weeks ago to repair a knee injury she suffered while shooting a music video.
According to media reports, Federline, 26, has a 2-year-old daughter by his ex-girlfriend, former "Moesha" TV actress Shar Jackson, who also is pregnant with a second child.
Federline reportedly met Spears during her 2000 tour, when he was in the opening act, and also was a backup dancer for Spear's former beau, pop star Justin Timberlake, at the 2002 MTV Video Music Awards.
Spears and Federline were first captured by photographers together in Santa Monica, California, in April and were chased by the paparazzi again during her European tour.
Their engagement comes fewer than six months after Spears was granted an annulment in early January to dissolve her surprise two-day marriage in Las Vegas to a childhood pal, Jason Allen Alexander.
Spears, whose latest album, "In the Zone," was released in November, announced last week that she was canceling her North American summer tour dates while she recovers from knee surgery.
-----------------------------
so...he and his ex-girlfriend have one kid and she is pregnant with another
but that's over! he's in love with britney and they're gonna get married!!!
well, it's ok, it's hollywood.
ladies and pregnant men, I find it amazing how ppl are so willing to suspend their understanding of human nature for the sake of "love" yet they refuse to stop believing in gravity and time. (two things you can neither see nor measure without special tools made by ppl who believe in such heresy)
Now, who am I to preach about building a relationship?
I'm me! The L0v3 Lo53r!!
So lets start off with the worst and work our way down to the plausible.
1) Young.
Youth promises ONE thing. They will grow up and change. I wish everyone the best but outside of poetry and 1950's movies young love is not designed to outlast your video rental late charges. It only trains us to pursue love. It has a 1/2 life of 30-120 days. (as with all 1/2 lives the other half may be a year or more) but the good side is you fall in love, you feel great, you have fun and when it gets weird, you get mad/sad/whatever and break up. (hopefully you two where the only "kids" involved) Young love is d00med!!! Yet we are drawn to it. So, it’s death serves a purpose.
2) Desperate
Just broke up, unhappy in the current relationship, the unbearable weight of life crushing the soul, type of person. These are the ppl who hook up because there's no other light in their bleak dark universe! [/melodrama] I think one of the most disrespectful things you can do to someone you love is to hand them the baggage you worked so hard to pack for yourself. But then again, anyone stupid enough to think that you got where you are because of life treating you poorly deserves to watch the train wreck from the tracks.
The good side to this is that carry on bags can be filled with good stuff if good ppl will stop and fill them before the trip and the emotional baggage may get lost when you change planes. (don’t wait at the carousel!)
3) Horny
I know! I know! You're thinking "But MAC! Horny applies to the first two as well."
Yes, it finds it's way into everything. But “horny” all by itself ranks higher than the first two because what you want from the relationship is much clearer and easier to achieve. Unfortunately, while the first two have a bright potential, horny does not. Horny just ends up with you, years later, wondering why everything you did was based around being horny. But up until then, I’ve been assured, you’ll pretty much be happy with what you get out of it (except for AIDS that would suck)
4) By Design
“By design” relationships are one of the most plausible forms of relationships IF and ONLY IF both parties understand what they expect from their design. Most ppl find something un-romantic about this but be honest; if you are relying on and sharing with someone wouldn’t you want to know that they depend on you to give them something they can’t just buy in a store?
Examples:
Some guys just want to come home to a clean house and a dinner. They will marry and put up with bitches of the foulest caliber. But the bitch will have the house clean and dinner ready.
Some gals want the security of money and a successful man. They will tolerate him being gone to work all the time and raise the kids by themselves but when she wants that new Cadillac, he writes a check for it.
Now you can see how this can become a hollow arrangement. But only if the two ppl are so shallow and selfish that they are only concerned about their own “design” Normally people with successful relationships have quietly arranged their design and look for it subconsciously. Many, many long term marriages from other wise healthy relationships break up because one thing about one person changes and suddenly the “design” doesn’t work. It makes me sick to see “loving couples” so inflexible that one alteration in motivations destroys the relationship (except when that motivation becomes drugs)
5) Succession of hostilities
The most reliable way to have a successful relationship is to stop fighting it.
How much more can be said about that?
We fancy the ability to flex our free will and choose who we love. But that’s not how love works. Success requires that some end goal be met, and you only function within a certain set of parameters. You simply have to stop fighting your heart. Quit telling yourself that certain things matter and you MUST have them and other things DON’T matter and you should be ashamed for even noticing them. A relationship is a matter of balance The hearts in play are weights and the circumstances are the arms of the scale.
So stop fighting the leverage and see how you measure up.
Or marry that dog of a dancer from your ex bf’s last tour