a moral dilemma?

[mute]

This thought spawned up from something my buddy said to me. I should note he may not seem too bright.

My buddy was asking me what I was doing tonight, and I told him I was going out with a few girls. Reasons why I was going out with these ladies was because it was one of the girl's birthday, and last Tuesday she just had a brain tumor removed. I've known her for almost a year now, and we started hanging out with each other a lot more recently. I visited her in the hospital the whole time and felt like I should be there for her as a friend and for support. Because that sounds like a pretty fucked up thing to go through.

So, it was her birthday tonight, she asked me to go out and have a couple of drinks. Even though she can't drink for a couple of months. As you can tell, she's doing pretty fucking good for getting that kind of surgery done. She's doing really well.

So my buddy starts cracking jokes at me saying how 'I'm one of the girls'. Just a regular friendly crack (and he also didn't know I was going with 2 other buddies of ours) but it makes me frustrated when he doesn't know the real reason why I'm going. He thinks I was going to 'gossip with the girls' (and rest assure I don't) and the real reason I was going is because she asked me to. And that I was being there for her on her birthday as a friend incase she's going through any stressful shit.

Sure, I wasn't in the mood to go, but I felt like I should have gone. Which I did, and I had an alright time. I know people are different, like me and my friend, but does it make any sense why I went?

[Mae]

It's called being a good friend.

Good job Good Friend.

[Mudflap]

A buddy gives you grief for going out with some chicks and you call it a moral dilemma?

[mute]

No that made me ask, "Am I prick if I don't want to go out with her if she asks?" (because of what she might be going through at the moment)

[Mae]

Ask yourself if you are being used. If you are, U= Not a prick for not wanting to go out but a dummy for doing so.

[MuffyTheVampyreLayer]

You usually want to support your friends (like go out for a few drinks with them on their birthday after they have been ill), you usually want to ridicule your enemies (like tell them they're a big girls blouse for hanging out with the ladies)... I think you may need to prioritise your dilemmas..hmmm?

[Barbie]

I'd like to know what you friend was doing going out for drinks after a major surgery like that? A brain tumor? Shouldn't she have been at home?
After having a brain tumor removed, radiation alone is about 3-7 days...

[SimpleSimon]

No radiation or chemo if it was a benign tumor.

[mute]

Ya, the tumor is going through the pathology right now. It's shitty it takes 5 weeks for her to find out if it's cancerous or not. Like I said though, she's doing pretty effing good for how recent the whole events were.

[sauron]

No dillemma here...

- d.

[Cruise Director]

I've always had a pretty good sized circle of friends. Some of which are of the female gender of our species. Occasionally they do "girls night out." I have been fortunate enough to have been invited on a few occasions and went every time. Yes, my male friends had a great time with it and no, I didn't really care. Most of the time when your buddies are teasing you, it's out of jealousy.

Each friend in your arsenal has particular qualities that you value in them. To be a well-rounded individual, you need to take advantage of all of them.

By the way, kudos for being there for this young lady. I'm sure I'd want dear friends around in such a crisis.