A lesson for me...

[Barbie]

Even after 5 years divorce:

Do not feel safe in trusting your ex-husband
Do not allow him to continue to manipulate or control your life.
Do not allow him to be superior over you.
Do not allow him to embarrass or humiliate you.
Do not allow him to belittle you.
Do not allow him to dominate a conversation.
Do not allow him to put his foot on you and step on you or you pride.
Do not allow him to dictate.
Do not allow him to live your life.

I should have known better than to "all of thee above".

I should have known that I would get messed over in all of this.

I should have known that Kristine was going to get messed over in all of this.

I should have known.

But I do not learn. I just do not learn.

I am far too trusting.

Dammit!

[Mudflap]

The answer to all of your problems with your ex is in your own post. Lemme point it out to you.

Originally posted by Barbie

Do not allow him to live

Seriously...

I got nothing. Good luck to you.

[Koliedrus]

I have an ex husband. It's Mrs. Kol's. We're fortunate in that he lives several states away but he was encouraged to contact his ex while he was going through a 12-step-program.

We forgave him in our hearts. Then I was asked about forgiving him in person. I think I said something along the lines of meeting his handshake with a baseball bat and throwing gasoline on him while he bled to death in a ditch.

Don't take that advice, please. Tone it down by extracting him from your daily routine. It helps if he's willing to agree that your lives should be seperate.

[Barbie]

I may not get primary residence custody of Kristine now, due to Jessie's bullshit. I'm going to have to retain a lawyer and drag this and Kristine through court. Which I was trying so hard to avoid. I don't want to do this to Kristine.

So this is the rundown

I'm frustrated with my job.
I'm frustrated with this custody thing.
I'm frustrated with the building of the house
I'm frustrated with my husband.
I'm frustrated.

I need a vacation.

And IRC

[ms. bing]

i have never before been so glad that my ex husband is not eva's father.
her father is an incredibly level-headed, liberal and sometimes exasperatingly logical man who would never do anything that wasn't above the board.
naturally a real relationship between us would never work.

regardless, i'm sorry you and your daughter have to go through this.
get a good lawyer.