Floodgate Theory

[Koliedrus]

The first time I heard about it, it concerned neural overload. In essence, the nervous system can only handle so much before it shuts out any new stimulus.

The movie "Stripes" made the theory easier to understand.

If you have a toothache, fill your mouth with cold water and sit on a stove until the water boils.

Here's my question. I can't be the only one who's noticed this...

Every time I've been geared up for a relationship with someone, other potential relationships seem to come out of the woodwork.

Have you ever gone through a "dry spell" only to be inundated later?

The only thing I can figure out is that when you set your sights on someone, you change your behavior in ways that attract others.

I need to know.

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Subdivided.

[Billyman]

no shit!, years ago after my "ex-wife" and i split i went through a dry spell as well. even in high school no body wanted you until you found someone stupid enough that did. then all hell would break loose and you would have chicks interested in you coming from every where. during the last 7 to 8 years i have been in and out of relationships some with long dry spells, but the "get one attract a dozen theory" holds true for every one including women i understand. is it in the way we act once we have met someone? our body language perhaps? a new found confidence? hell i wish i new, however i am reading a book on sex, behaviors, science of these subjects and many others, I'LL GET BACK TO YOU ON THIS ONE.!!

[skalie]

You're after someone, you sharpen up your act, shave a little closer and maybe pay a little more notice to details like personal hygiene and try to avoid showing the bad side of your soul like early afternoon drunkeness on a Sunday.

What one has to combat is a phenomenom called SJS, or stale jism syndrome. When you're getting laid women smell it and you are looked at in a different light. It harks back to the old drag your woman around by the hair days, a woman can smell a good hunter, the provider who comes home carrying a wild boar and gets sexual favours in return. Basically they are attracted unconsciously to the man about town, this helps to explain the 'never rains, but it pours' problem.

maybe

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[This message has been edited by skalie (edited 05-06-2001).]

[Lady Sianna]

<FONT COLOR="purple">pheremones definitely play a part in this one...i think that people emit certain underlying scents when they're happy, content, sexually active, involved.

skalie's right...there is something very primal about it...and it does happen the other way around. when i invest my energy in a relationship that is good, healthy (emotionally, physically, spiritually) & otherwise satisfying...they do indeed come out of the woodwork!

but where are those fuckers when i'm sad & lonely & in need of some lovin'?! http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif

ahhh, the loveliness & mystery of being human...</FONT c>

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<FONT COLOR="red">it is a great wind that stirs my soul...</FONT c>

[Cruise Director]

I've always considered the relationship folder of my life to be similar to the vast deserts of Kenya. When it's dry, it's DRY! When it rains, it rains like HELL! One extreme or the other. I think once it balances itself out, I will have found the one. http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/smile.gif

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We all float down here...