i need some help

[disturbed]

i know this may sound stupid, but i know that i have found the girl of my dreams. and she even feels the same way about me as i feel about her. she has been wanting to join the navy for almost 8 years now, and if she does she will be shipped off in september. i know we really care for each other and i know it could work out. im trying to see if she is willing to delay her entry into the navy in order for her to move down here with me this summer for a few months, and have us live together to make sure this is the real thing. i feel guilty about asking her to delay something she has looked foward to for so long, i do not want her to not accomplish her dreams or goals because of me. yes, i would be willing to wait a long time to be with her. i would just like to spend some more time with her to make sure this is going to work. there is something special about her, i have had giant crushes and been infatuated with peple before, but there is something different and more down to earth about her. we can talk about anything together and she helps me through my problems and i help her through hers. even if i am the problem. am i just stupid? or do you think trying something like this would actually help us? everyone tells me that i cant find the person im going to be with because im only 19 and she is only 18. but no one else can ever understand how i feel for her, or the lenghts i would honestly go through to be with her.

(now open to public beatings)

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you let me violate you, you let me desecrate you
you let me penetrate you, you let me complicate you
help me i broke apart my insides, help me i've got no soul to sell
help me the only thing that works for me, help me get away from myself

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[Danite]

Let her join the navy as planned. The separation will be the ultimate test of your relationship (read-love). It will also allow you both time to grow. When she gets out of the navy she may be a completely different person with new goals and dreams. That will be the time to look towards the future.

It is a very hard decision, be open and honest with her. Discuss it, but don't allow emotions to make your choices.

Good luck.

Danite

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"And many of those whose bodies lie dead and buried will rise up, some to everlasting life and some to shame and everlasting contempt..." Daniel 12:3

[disturbed]

i do plan on her joining, because it is something she has always wanted to do. what i would like is for us to spend some more time together, to build up more of a relationship. i dont know many people at all that could survive 4 years apart from someone, but you are correct, it would be a real test. and we have openly discussed it without letting our emotions effect it. and that is one of the questions i asked her "what are your goals and dreams in life?". because if we dont share the same goals, its never going to work. thank you.

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you let me violate you, you let me desecrate you
you let me penetrate you, you let me complicate you
help me i broke apart my insides, help me i've got no soul to sell
help me the only thing that works for me, help me get away from myself

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[Uberwonder]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by disturbed:
... but no one else can ever understand how i feel for her, or the lenghts i would honestly go through to be with her.


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BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Ahhh shit. Sorry BAHAHAHAHA, seriously, sorry.
Ahem *wipes tears from eyes*
Ahhh how wonderful to be the only person in the world to be madly in love.

Ehhh, guess what, Skippy, been der done dat.
Exquisite pain is it not?
Let her go. Keep her close.
Can you do both? If you want to keep her forever you will.
She is chasing a dream and if you think that you are important enough to supercede that, you are wrong. She can have both but you seem to want her to compromise her dream which will spell doom for the two of you. I'll bet money on that.
Your impatience is normal and there is nothing wrong with fearing the loss of her but if you work at it, then it will work out for both of you if it was truly meant to be.
If you love her, let her go....
You know the line. Live it.

[disturbed]

what i meant by no one else understands, is that everyone things that because i am young then i dont have what it takes to make a relationship work. i dont believe i am important enough to interfear with her life goals, and i have told her that. i am taking it one day at a time and i have told her to do what she wants to do, and if it was meant to be then things will work themselves out, if not then it was good while it lasted. i did not mean to sound like i was so in love that i was blind. i am trying to be as realistic as possible here. but i understand where you are comming from

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you let me violate you, you let me desecrate you
you let me penetrate you, you let me complicate you
help me i broke apart my insides, help me i've got no soul to sell
help me the only thing that works for me, help me get away from myself

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[Uberwonder]

Youth has nothing to do with whether you have what it takes, at worst it is a bit of a disadvantage because of the lack of experience, but there are a shit load of blue hairs out there that haven't a clue as to what it takes to make a relationship work and never will.
It's alllll in the heart, mi amigo. Look there.

For one thing, I wouldn't assume that her joining the military means that you couldn't be near her or even with her at some point. I was in the service and lived with my exlove-of-my-life.

[Time Slipping]

<FONT COLOR="TimeSlipping">ok. it works. cool........</FONT c>

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"Those who seek my life will be destroyed
They will go down to the depths of the earth
They will be given over to the sword
and become the food of the jackals"

[This message has been edited by Time Slipping (edited 04-26-2001).]

[This message has been edited by Time Slipping (edited 04-26-2001).]