Cruise Director
01-28-2003, 07:20 AM
Cody is one of my best friends. I have 5 or 6 that I would give that title to but I don't swing it around lightly. He is by far one of the most intelligent people I know and he and I have spent a great amount of time in our past delving in to great discussions and debates about everything imagineable.
Cody married a girl named Jen about 10 years ago. Jen was a part of our little group and I was more than happy to stand up for them in their wedding line. They have had 2 little girls that I adore and I look forward to seeing the family every chance I get. It seems that the last few years it has been only a few times per year but that's okay. I'm talking about the type of friendship here that could allow for years to pass without a word and then be able to pick up where it was left off without missing a beat.
Cody called me tonight and dropped the bombshell. He's leaving his wife. Long story short; they have been unhappy for a few years now and it finally came down to the "I don't love you anymore.""Well, I don't really love you anymore, either." conversation. He told me that for the last few years they have been mainly staying together for the kids and that he has finally come to the realization that a situation like that simply cannot work or be good for anyone involved. This was not a phone call that I would have expected and wasn't exactly thrilled to receive. I've known things were rocky at their house but never thought that the marriage had deteriorated that far. We talked for about an hour about a lot of future plans; where he would go, how he would tell his and her family, etc. and I made one point very clear. I am your friend and always will be. I will do anything and everything to help you out. Cody was appreciative but directed my help in another direction.
"Jen thinks that us splitting up is going to cause her to lose all of you as friends. She thinks that I will turn all of you against her and that she will be banished from any life that we have had." Nothing could be further from the truth and Cody and I both know it. Friends just don't operate that way. He payed me the upmost compliment I have ever been given. "Out of our group of friends, you are the only one that can vocalize how the collective feels. You are the only one that always seems to know what to say. Please come over this week and help my wife to understand that you all still love her." Needless to say I am both honored and saddened at the responsibility before me.
I have a plan to show her how much we still love both of them. I have been rifling through all of my photos and pulling out some of the group photos that we, as friends, have been in ( and there are a LOT of them.) They say pictures are worth a thousand words and I want her to see that we have always been there. Always have been and always will be. I hope that I can make the message crystal clear that they both have a great support group.
I guess things always have to change and sometimes that change isn't always good. He will get through this. She will get through this.
We will get through this.
Cody married a girl named Jen about 10 years ago. Jen was a part of our little group and I was more than happy to stand up for them in their wedding line. They have had 2 little girls that I adore and I look forward to seeing the family every chance I get. It seems that the last few years it has been only a few times per year but that's okay. I'm talking about the type of friendship here that could allow for years to pass without a word and then be able to pick up where it was left off without missing a beat.
Cody called me tonight and dropped the bombshell. He's leaving his wife. Long story short; they have been unhappy for a few years now and it finally came down to the "I don't love you anymore.""Well, I don't really love you anymore, either." conversation. He told me that for the last few years they have been mainly staying together for the kids and that he has finally come to the realization that a situation like that simply cannot work or be good for anyone involved. This was not a phone call that I would have expected and wasn't exactly thrilled to receive. I've known things were rocky at their house but never thought that the marriage had deteriorated that far. We talked for about an hour about a lot of future plans; where he would go, how he would tell his and her family, etc. and I made one point very clear. I am your friend and always will be. I will do anything and everything to help you out. Cody was appreciative but directed my help in another direction.
"Jen thinks that us splitting up is going to cause her to lose all of you as friends. She thinks that I will turn all of you against her and that she will be banished from any life that we have had." Nothing could be further from the truth and Cody and I both know it. Friends just don't operate that way. He payed me the upmost compliment I have ever been given. "Out of our group of friends, you are the only one that can vocalize how the collective feels. You are the only one that always seems to know what to say. Please come over this week and help my wife to understand that you all still love her." Needless to say I am both honored and saddened at the responsibility before me.
I have a plan to show her how much we still love both of them. I have been rifling through all of my photos and pulling out some of the group photos that we, as friends, have been in ( and there are a LOT of them.) They say pictures are worth a thousand words and I want her to see that we have always been there. Always have been and always will be. I hope that I can make the message crystal clear that they both have a great support group.
I guess things always have to change and sometimes that change isn't always good. He will get through this. She will get through this.
We will get through this.