Fantasy is a substitute for reality, yes? Rabble, if your guy didn't have fantasies the reality would have to suffice. Depending on the degree of his sex-drive, you would either have to put out whenever his urges peaked, tell him to leave you alone (in which case his chances of cheating on you are increased) or allow him a pacifier.
I admit it. Males think about sex often. At least the healthy ones do. By that I refer to men in their prime. Procreation is built into us just as surely as fight/flee, kill/die, eat/starve, love/hate...
Years ago I read an anthropological thesis that readily explained several issues concerning visual stimulus in various species and the similarities carried over to human evolution.
Consider the colorful baboon ass. Have you ever noticed that the female's chest is close to the same color? The male sees the breast and is reminded of the ass, thereby encouraging sexual activity/reproduction.
How about the human female breast? Does it remind anyone of buttocks? I thought so. I've just answered "why do men like big tits?"
When left to our own devices, we (males) see a firm, full-breasted woman as she approaches us and immediately think of the nether regions. As she walks past, we turn our heads to see if the frontal advertisement is true to the actual product. Big tits imply the ability to feed several offspring although it turns out that breast size and milk production are unrelated; more so now that augmentation is a widespread procedure.
Why do males look at porn? Because our primary function is to pass our genetic material so that our species will continue. A substitute actually tends to decrease the chances of promiscuity if the primary relationship is healthy.
Why do females opt for breast augmentation? Originally (IMHO), it was for reasons I've already stated; procreation. Now, in short, I can answer that question with another:
Why do males opt for cranial hair augmentation?
Self-esteem tops the list. I encourage you to add to that list for both sexes.
Early in our relationship, Mrs. Kol got us a subscription to Penthouse because she understands the basics of human nature. Her words to me ring true even now that our brood is established:
"I don't mind if you look at the menu as long as you eat at home."
With those words, she convinced me that she had faith it our ability to form a stable relationship and that I needn't fear unwarranted wrath should my eyes wander as my genes insist. I married her, we have kids, we appreciate the human form and make the Beast With Two Backs at every opportunity.
I have no reason to cheat.
'nuff said.
(edit: This post has officially received the Mrs. Kol Seal of Approval. In other words, she read it and said "Damned straight!"
I think I just earned some leg! http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif )
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[This message has been edited by Koliedrus (edited 03-27-2001).]