disturbed
11-13-2001, 10:59 PM
I know that this thread should most likely be in Lessons so move it there if need be, but this is the best place to get more immediate feedback.
I got my first apartment about a month ago, my fiancé moved from Chicago to Texas to live here with me. She has seemed to have a hard time adjusting to it, her car broke down the day we were going to drive it down to Texas, (transmission went out and her dad is replacing it as we speak), so it is kind of hard for her to get a job just yet. I know that she is bored sitting at the apartment while I am at work. She went back up to Chicago for about a week last week to spend time with her family and friends. While she was up there she didn’t want to spend any time with her friends, she just sat at home. Even since she got back her attitude has been awful. She complains about every single little thing. She complained a lot right after she moved down here but I just figured out that it was normal being bored and being in a brand new place. She says that she does not care about anything or anyone. I have tried everything that I can think of to make her feel comfortable and help her to adjust. I ask her if she wants to move back to Chicago and she says no. I ask her if she wants to continue living here and she says “I guess so.”
I just don’t know what to do anymore, she is driving me completely up the wall. Every single thing I do, (cleaning, cooking, ANYTHING), she always has something negative to say about it. It is driving me nuts, she never acted like this before, she is not acting like the same person I fell in love with and asked to marry me. I try talking to her about it and how I feel about it, and she just says OK and a few min later she goes back to acting the same way. She will not talk to me about anything that is on her mind. I just don’t know what to do, I love her to death and she knows it, but I can’t take this much longer and I would feel like such a jerk asking her to move back to Chicago after asking her to move down to Texas with me. If that happens I am sure that it would be the end of our relationship and I honestly don’t want it to come to that. There are times when she acts like her normal self, the way she used to always act, goofy and we have TONS of fun together and can make the best of any situation, but more often than not she is in a bad mood and just wants to bitch about anything and everything. I understand it takes some time to adjust, but I am getting to the point where enough is enough, and I am running out of ideas of what to do. I can’t take it much longer and I have told her that, but it does not seem to change anything at all. What else can I do? http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/frown.gif
I am not looking for sympathy, just ideas or engouragement, esp. from people that have been in some kind of situation like this before.
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[This message has been edited by disturbed (edited 11-13-2001).]
I got my first apartment about a month ago, my fiancé moved from Chicago to Texas to live here with me. She has seemed to have a hard time adjusting to it, her car broke down the day we were going to drive it down to Texas, (transmission went out and her dad is replacing it as we speak), so it is kind of hard for her to get a job just yet. I know that she is bored sitting at the apartment while I am at work. She went back up to Chicago for about a week last week to spend time with her family and friends. While she was up there she didn’t want to spend any time with her friends, she just sat at home. Even since she got back her attitude has been awful. She complains about every single little thing. She complained a lot right after she moved down here but I just figured out that it was normal being bored and being in a brand new place. She says that she does not care about anything or anyone. I have tried everything that I can think of to make her feel comfortable and help her to adjust. I ask her if she wants to move back to Chicago and she says no. I ask her if she wants to continue living here and she says “I guess so.”
I just don’t know what to do anymore, she is driving me completely up the wall. Every single thing I do, (cleaning, cooking, ANYTHING), she always has something negative to say about it. It is driving me nuts, she never acted like this before, she is not acting like the same person I fell in love with and asked to marry me. I try talking to her about it and how I feel about it, and she just says OK and a few min later she goes back to acting the same way. She will not talk to me about anything that is on her mind. I just don’t know what to do, I love her to death and she knows it, but I can’t take this much longer and I would feel like such a jerk asking her to move back to Chicago after asking her to move down to Texas with me. If that happens I am sure that it would be the end of our relationship and I honestly don’t want it to come to that. There are times when she acts like her normal self, the way she used to always act, goofy and we have TONS of fun together and can make the best of any situation, but more often than not she is in a bad mood and just wants to bitch about anything and everything. I understand it takes some time to adjust, but I am getting to the point where enough is enough, and I am running out of ideas of what to do. I can’t take it much longer and I have told her that, but it does not seem to change anything at all. What else can I do? http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/frown.gif
I am not looking for sympathy, just ideas or engouragement, esp. from people that have been in some kind of situation like this before.
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[This message has been edited by disturbed (edited 11-13-2001).]