rage
11-04-2001, 04:04 PM
ok...I'm in a dilemma now...and it seems like I always tend to do this...
background:
Party the friday after halloween. Hanging out, about 10 or so people there, and one of the girls starts flurting w/ me. Now, knowing that I am drinking, but will be stopping soon (designated driver), I try to keep flurting to a minimum, just cause I dont want anything to happen, cause I know it will create more problems.
Well...she wouldn't stop it!! those little damn things that girls do when they flirt, she just kept on.
So we end up fooling around. Both of us pretty much sober. I go home, sleep for about 3 hrs, wake up and go play golf. Get home around 6 and she has already called twice. I fall back asleep for about 12 hrs, wake up, and find she called me 3 MORE times, and also paged me twice.
Here is my dilemma. I suck at relationships. If I am in em, I usually fuck em up soon. Why? Because I hate the feeling of being smothered. I'm just not ready for it yet. I like my personal space. Fooling around is ok by me, but I usually let the girl know up front. In her case, I didn't.
Now, how do I get out of it, while at the same time:
1.)Not looking like a complete jackass
2.)Remaining friends (sometimes, we hang out, though it has never been just us hanging out alone)
3.)Not being seen as an asshole
Help please?!
EDIT: Grammatical Corrections
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"Snoogy Boogies"
[This message has been edited by rage (edited 11-04-2001).]
background:
Party the friday after halloween. Hanging out, about 10 or so people there, and one of the girls starts flurting w/ me. Now, knowing that I am drinking, but will be stopping soon (designated driver), I try to keep flurting to a minimum, just cause I dont want anything to happen, cause I know it will create more problems.
Well...she wouldn't stop it!! those little damn things that girls do when they flirt, she just kept on.
So we end up fooling around. Both of us pretty much sober. I go home, sleep for about 3 hrs, wake up and go play golf. Get home around 6 and she has already called twice. I fall back asleep for about 12 hrs, wake up, and find she called me 3 MORE times, and also paged me twice.
Here is my dilemma. I suck at relationships. If I am in em, I usually fuck em up soon. Why? Because I hate the feeling of being smothered. I'm just not ready for it yet. I like my personal space. Fooling around is ok by me, but I usually let the girl know up front. In her case, I didn't.
Now, how do I get out of it, while at the same time:
1.)Not looking like a complete jackass
2.)Remaining friends (sometimes, we hang out, though it has never been just us hanging out alone)
3.)Not being seen as an asshole
Help please?!
EDIT: Grammatical Corrections
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<IMG SRC="http://www.tyler.net/llundberg/sig.jpg" border=0>
"Snoogy Boogies"
[This message has been edited by rage (edited 11-04-2001).]