Childish Behavior

[Uberwonder]

I have one. 20 months old and a marvel to watch the natural patterns that develop as they grow. The total self centered behavior overcoming the occasional desire to please. The mimicry of the adults is what I watch the most. This is imprinting unnatural patterns, what they will or could become. Is this the age where the imprinting can create a saint or a monster? And what would you consider the best path for the parent to take?
I am looking for discussion, not advice. I have a 9 year old also and she is doing well.
I am not looking for a Better Homes and Gardens discussion either.
Individuals make up society. Some of them run it, some become the dregs.
There are other threads discussing the aspects of effects on adults but these are the roots.

[Rabble Rouser]

This is definately a crucial age in a child's emotional development. This is when they first show signs of empathy and self conscious behaviors. They also begin to regulate their emotions...they know what level is needed to achieve a goal. It still amazes me that someone so young can display such a wide range of emotions.

Not being a parent, I can't say that what I would do would be the best way, but I would create situations in which the child could get a better grasp of their emotions and how they react to them. I would especially pay attention to empathy, since this is the best judge of how they will treat others. Watch how they treat another child if that child's toy is taken away. At this age, though, I believe that they are too young to be taught how to react...you just have to watch them and guide them.

That sounded like an advice column...didn't mean for it to come off that way, but didn't really know how else to put it.

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[Mr. Snrub]

My advice is simple: when your child is asleep, you must creep up on them, making sure not to wake them, and whisper into their ear over and over again: "Your name is Ted Doggy. Your name is Ted Doggy."

Almost whimsical, but effective.

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[King Bastard]

Nice. They will no doubt call the resulting psycho "Son of Snrub"


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[Koliedrus]

I have a four-year-old and a seven-month-old.

When they emulate the people around them, I stand in awe. Most of the time I ask, "where did they learn that?!" More often than not I'm pleased to find that their behavior mirrors that of yours truly. I hope that their interraction with your children will prove to be beneficial.

Ah, but I know that the day will come when my kids break free of the confinements of parental control and make choices that seem unwise to me. I look forward to that day and dread it at the same time.

My family loves life. My children have embraced that phylosophy from birth. As long as they're happy with what they do, so am I.

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[MuffyTheVampyreLayer]

Ok, I know how everyone feels about images of family members, but seeing as how I live next to a cop shop and date a politician, I think I am fairly safe. And I can not contain myself any longer, so here is my best creation ever, and the little guy I am so proud of - meet the offspring (not the band). Aint he cool!!!


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[zoey]

Oh muffy, he's gorgeous!!!

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[King Bastard]

Those of us with kids should feel blessed by them, and those of you without, just dont rush into it. Yes, they are a source of joy and endless love, but that can wait til other things in your life are more stable.

*gets off soapbox*


Muffy, that's a cute kid!!!

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[Uberwonder]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by King Bastard:
Those of us with kids should feel blessed by them, and those of you without, just dont rush into it. Yes, they are a source of joy and endless love, but that can wait til other things in your life are more stable.

*gets off soapbox*


Muffy, that's a cute kid!!!

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Advice that I would give also, KB. I was in my late thirties when my daughter was born (I bet I could kick all y'alls asses in an Oldest Member contest). I ran free and partied my ass off in my 20's and 30's with no child doing without because of it. I am partied out now and quite happy to sit back and enjoy fatherhood.
On the other hand, I have friends that are sending their kids off to college or their own lives now, having had them while young and now have their own freedom. They are pretty happy too.

Well, this thread has wandered off the original thought that I rather poorly presented but we got to see Muffy's well done handiwork.

[Princess_Heather]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by MuffyTheVampyreLayer:
Ok, I know how everyone feels about images of family members, but seeing as how I live next to a cop shop and date a politician, I think I am fairly safe. And I can not contain myself any longer, so here is my best creation ever, and the little guy I am so proud of - meet the offspring (not the band). Aint he cool!!!
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Awwww. He's a darling, muffy. You're a lucky mom.

I long for the day I will be able to hold our very own. 15 years is a long time...

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[Princess_Heather]

Here's my nephew. He's almost 6 weeks old now.

(Yes, I asked his mommy for permission to post him)


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He's gonna be so much fun to watch grow and develop. Good practice for us I guess. He can hold his head up on his own now... but not for long, his muscles give out and his little head flops over. Sorry, I can't help but to get excited about babies & little kids.

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[Faceplant]

i act like a child.

thats about it.

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[Princess_Heather]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Faceplant:
i act like a child.

thats about it.

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So Does Bishop
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