Having a baby.....

[PB]

So much talk about abortion and all these other things.. made me want to ask... Who here has children? were they planned? Have you ever regretted having that child/ren?

What are their names?? their ages? and what sets them apart from other children, because I know all children have a special quality that is all their own and only makes the parent love them even more. ...

So just curious..

and if you don't have any kids.. do you one day want to have them? If you are female do you think you could raise a child alone? If you are male, same question plus would you stay around even if you didn't "love" the woman and still be a father?

Show me your heart on this situation..

and i'll give my own answer a little later down the line.

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[MuffyTheVampyreLayer]

Tarryn James Brunton was born on August 22, 1995. He was unplanned but much wanted. It is hard to sum up exactly what makes him special and unique... the whole package I think. He likes to try to stick his tongue up my nose, does that count? http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif I have never regretted having him for a minute, I often wonder how I would cope without him. I think his most special qualities are how caring he is, and his sense of humour. I don't think I could ever adequately sum up how I feel about Tarryn in words, being a parent is just such a unique thing.


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[Mudflap]

<FONT COLOR="Orange">I don't have any kids.

I would very much like to be a father someday, but I'll only do that if I find THE right woman.

I would be a great father. I just know it.

Oh yeah, my father was an only child and I was his only son (that I'm aware of http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/wink.gif ), so if I don't procreate, our family name dies forever! I don't feel any pressure though, it's a common name. http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif</FONT c>

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[Billyman]

i don't have any kids.

none that i am having to pay for anyway!

i think you get can them at Kmart, you can save money if they have a blue light special on them. http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif

[Rabble Rouser]

I don't have children, and I don't plan on having them either. For several reasons.

Sperm is required to make a child. That requires getting laid. Ain't gonna happen. http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif

I don't have enough money to support myself, let alone a child. I would never have the kind of money to give a child a good life, and children deserve nothing less.

I'm s e l f i s h. I want to live my life for me, and nobody else. I don't want to have to spend all my free time looking after someone else. I want to be able to see the world, to experience other cultures...and you just can't do that with a child.

I would be a terrible parent. I know that I have problems controlling my temper. I would be abusive (well, I don't know if I would be, but I certainly have the potential), negligent (sp?), impatient...everything that a parent should never be. No child would be safe under my care.

I've never had this "maternal instinct" that many women speak of. I never played with dolls when I was little, I never role-played "mommy" when I was little...and while children aren't all that bad, I hate babies. All the crying and screaming...*shivers* I've never had the desire to be a parent, and doubt I ever will.

Those are my reasons for just saying no to breeding. They may sound harsh and s e l f i s h, but at least I've realized these characteristics in myself before it was too late.

edited for censored words.

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"We must put an end to this. We've seen enough body bags and ballsacks." - Henry Kissinger

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[MuffyTheVampyreLayer]

Rogue.. would you care to give us YOUR definition of the censored word? That and get your sexy arse on MSN so I can have oral intercourse with you http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif

[MAC]

you two make me sick...(RW&Muffy)

as for babys...

I have a perfect, sweet, kind, blue eyed, blonde haired, 3 year old, little princess who can have anything she wants as long as no BOYS are involved.
And uncle RW will back me up on this.

*sigh*
I'd say she was an accident except I am well versed on where babys come from and I'd have to call it more of a force of will.
Falling down is an accident.
Running into a cabinet door is an accident.
Having a baby is the result of a course of action you intended to follow......you just thought you were smarter than the outcome.
But now I have a whole new perspective! (http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/Forum5/HTML/000036.html)

Besides she helps me mow the grass and I love her Momma.


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[squee]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Rabble Rouser:
I don't have children, and I don't plan on having them either. For several reasons.

Sperm is required to make a child. That requires getting laid. Ain't gonna happen. http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif

I don't have enough money to support myself, let alone a child. I would never have the kind of money to give a child a good life, and children deserve nothing less.

I'm s e l f i s h. I want to live my life for me, and nobody else. I don't want to have to spend all my free time looking after someone else. I want to be able to see the world, to experience other cultures...and you just can't do that with a child.

I would be a terrible parent. I know that I have problems controlling my temper. I would be abusive (well, I don't know if I would be, but I certainly have the potential), negligent (sp?), impatient...everything that a parent should never be. No child would be safe under my care.

I've never had this "maternal instinct" that many women speak of. I never played with dolls when I was little, I never role-played "mommy" when I was little...and while children aren't all that bad, I hate babies. All the crying and screaming...*shivers* I've never had the desire to be a parent, and doubt I ever will.

Those are my reasons for just saying no to breeding. They may sound harsh and s e l f i s h, but at least I've realized these characteristics in myself before it was too late.

edited for censored words.

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Shades of the Misanthropic Bitch...? http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/smile.gif
But I very much respect that Rabble has a good deal of self-knowledge. She recognizes that she is young and not yet ready to have kids...so who knows? Maybe someday you'll have a family...time changes things.



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[Flit]

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This is Jillian Morgan...she will be 4 on June 12.

Having a child is the hardest thing ever. Especially while juggling a career, house and "marriage".

My regrets are these...I wish I had been happy with myself before I married and had a child. I wouldn't trade her for anything but I am now on a precipice of life that will change her whole future. I forsee a future in which I will be a single parent and she probably will not see her Daddy every day.

I know now that since I wasn't happy with myself that I doomed the marriage to fail, and I should have been more conservative in my rush to be a mother. But now, I must look ahead and make the best life for both of us that I can.

[disturbed]

I am not going to have children until i am finish with school, married, and have a decent way to support my family. When that happens, if it ever does, i want to have 2 children. 1 boy (oldest) and 3 or 4 years later 1 girl.

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[Lady Sianna]

<FONT COLOR="purple">i have known since i was young that i didn't want to have i child.

children are amazing, wonder-filled, open & pure creatures...and i've no doubt that i would make an incredible mother, but that is not what i want for my life.

as with rabble, there is so much that i want to do & learn & experience...and a child would hinder the freedom to do that. i've a wild, free spirit that yearns to roam the vast unknowns - of myself, of this life, of the universe.

i am certainly not ready to devote myself so entirely to another person.

perhaps one day...i must allow for change.

but as an illustration:

when i was a girl & all the other girls were thinking up names for their future children, i thought up names for the two wolf-dogs i would one day have! http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif (asha & storm)</FONT c>

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[Pianomahnn]

Imahavemesomekiddies.

The only way I will have kids will be if the woman I with promises to never ask for a divorce. In my opinion, as long as there is no physical or emotional abuse, divorce so fucking *******. If you just fall out of love, but both parents are nice to each other, stay married for the child. Its not cool to divorce because you don't love your spouse. Yada Yada Yada.

Aint no way I will raise a child myself. Unless by my wife's death. Or she is satan. I dated satan once, which I why she is not the mother of any of my nonexistant children. Satan mom's sucks. Grrrrrrrrr

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[Deadpool]

Kids?.....I'm working on it.
Im not having kids until I get a cushy job. Hell I'll try to raise the little fucker myself if ma bitch ditches me. I bet I'd be the bestest daddy.

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Fuck you I wont do what you tell me. -RATM

[rage]

hmm...I guess most people can probably guess where I'll stand on this one... http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif

If I ever have a child w/ someone that I am not married too, damn straight I will support them. Chances are I already care for them also. I will be there for them, and give them the love/support that they need. I fucking HATE people who run off on their kids/responsiblities. I fucking HATE them, cause I have seen what it can do to a child, and to the woman who has to raise it. I feel the same about divorce. I hate how a man could do that...heh...funny note..."father of mine" came on while I was typing this...

Those of you who are single mothers, you ARE amazing. I know it isn't easy, but some how you manage to do it. congrats to you!

Now, when do I WANT to have kids? heh heh heh...after about 5-10 years of being married and enjoying time with my wife. (No, I'm not married, I'm 19 - dont plan on it for a while yet http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif)

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Not as dumb as acid wash"

[PB]

Well I can not yet reveal why I asked this question... But to answer my own question..(this may get a little ong since this is one of my favortie subjects)

I have a beautiful son who will be 3 in August 18th. His name is Devin and he is the joy of my life.

I am a single mother and have been since I found out I was pregnant. I'm not perfect and it is not easy at all.. but that smile of his makes it all worth it.

My son was in no way a planned child, I found out about him 2 days before my 20th birthday.. I wasn't sleeping around, I was in a relationship at the time, and two weeks after telling him I was pregnant, relationship was over.

REGRET.... hmmm.. I can honestly say I have never regretted the choice to have my child. I regret some of the circumstances of alot of things.. For one.. my son is bi-racial, i regret some of the choices I made because of the way people treat him sometimes, they don't act strange to me at all, but people look at him very strange and kinda stick their noses up at him sometimes, and that really bugs me, alot of the time I say something to them! But he is by far one of the most beautiful children I have ever seen and I do not say that because I am his mother. He has a wonderful personality and a beautiful winning smile. SO no I never regret having him (back on subject since i ventured a bit) I sometimes wonder what I would be doing if I wasnot his mother. But I never for a second regret it..

That's all for now, i could go on forever.. and here is a pic of my beautiful baby...

it is a year ago, but it still shows him... Devin (http://www.cox-internet.com/sweetladie/img/dev.jpg)

*****And if you have a negative opinion about my son being bi-racial....not in this thread.. and if you have something to say about it... start a new thread, but prepare for war..and don't judge him for something I did . *****

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[MuffyTheVampyreLayer]

Bitch... he is a cutie!!! You go girl!!!
Anyone giving him/you shit about being bi-racial is the scum of the earth ... grr... that just makes me fucking mad.
Being a single Mum isn't that bad is it http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/smile.gif I quite like just me and my babe kicking around.

Rabble and Lady Sianna. I AM a ******* person and I lead a full life. I just lead it WITH my son.

[PB]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by MuffyTheVampyreLayer:
Bitch... he is a cutie!!! You go girl!!!
Anyone giving him/you shit about being bi-racial is the scum of the earth ... grr... that just makes me fucking mad.
Being a single Mum isn't that bad is it http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/smile.gif I quite like just me and my babe kicking around.

Rabble and Lady Sianna. I AM a ******* person and I lead a full life. I just lead it WITH my son.[/quote]

Thank you Muffy.. I think he is quite the handsome little guy as well. Being a single mother from the aspect that I do not have to share him is nice... but it isn't fair to him in so many other aspects.. but it is nice to be the queen of his universe.. a nd yes it pisses me off too how people act sometimes.. but can't change the world, can only change a few at a time. but it pisses me off to the fullest as well.

I also lead a full life, and am privledged to share it with my baby boy... but I respect both of your decisions and reasoning behind not wanting to have children. http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif

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[Koliedrus]

Now that they are here, I realize that I would gladly allow both of my children to gestate in my body and burst forth into life no matter the consequences to myself.


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Yes. I would die for my children.

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[VenoM]

<FONT COLOR="Red">Kol - she's precious http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/smile.gif

I have 2 children now.

2 yr old Keanu and almost a month old Logan. They're a great addition to our family, making it more complete.</FONT c>

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[Mr. Snrub]

I want kids. Lots of kids. And i know i would be a good father. Just give me some time, ok?

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[Strider]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Pianomahnn:
Imahavemesomekiddies.

The only way I will have kids will be if the woman I with promises to never ask for a divorce. In my opinion, as long as there is no physical or emotional abuse, divorce so fucking *******. If you just fall out of love, but both parents are nice to each other, stay married for the child. Its not cool to divorce because you don't love your spouse. Yada Yada Yada.

Aint no way I will raise a child myself. Unless by my wife's death. Or she is satan. I dated satan once, which I why she is not the mother of any of my nonexistant children. Satan mom's sucks. Grrrrrrrrr

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I'm so glad noone here listens to you Moron on divorce and/or marriage. Moron. You obviously have no idea what you're Moron talking about Moron...that or you're too inexperienced in the game of life and need more time to develop a personality instead of having that "I've solved the problem to everything" attitude towards marriage Moron. Maybe when you grow up Moron and cross that bridge called puberty Moron, you'll understand. Meanwhile Moron, I sincerely hope that noone pays attention to you Moron or goes to you Moron for advice on anything Moron regarding the progression/happiness of thier lives and/or relationships. Moron. http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/smile.gif


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[Strider]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Koliedrus:
Now that they are here, I realize that I would gladly allow both of my children to gestate in my body and burst forth into life no matter the consequences to myself.


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Yes. I would die for my children.

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How come you only ever show one child, yet you use child plurally?



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[Sinister Her]

I had typed this seven paragraphed reply and IE somehow ate it. While I was rebooting I realized that none of this matters. This

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[estero]

<font color=pink>I don't have children but I would want to wait until I was married, we both had good jobs, and could afford a private school. THe possibility for me to have children may not be there, but I'll try and try anyway. If all else fails, I hope one of my sisters will carry the baby for us. If that won't happen, then I guess adoption will be an option, but I would really really really really want my baby to have my genes and my husbands genes of course. Adoptions take forever anyway.

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[Dog Breath]

I have four boys.
One is my wife's son from her first marriage whom I adopted, He is MY son. That other fucker can just keep his distance. My oldest is 14
The next in line is my nephew he is 11 and lives with me. I am his dad and that other fucker better stay gone if he knows breathing is a good thing.
I have a set of three year old twin boys that my wife and I worked very hard to produce. My boys are the best kids on the planet and I have loaded guns to back that up. I run a pretty strict/protective home. My boys know exactly where they stand and I treat them all equally. They know I am the Dad and they are the kids. A pierced ear is OK but any more voluntary holes are for your 18th birthday. Do what the fuck you want to your hair but mom doesn't like smelly jeans. Do your chores and get paid.
I love my boys and they love me, what else matters?
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Here are some pictures if you must.

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[PB]

you all have beautiful children... thanks for the responses



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[Kayla]

i agree with psychotic bitch..you all have beautiful children. Kol, thats the prettiest little girl ever http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/smile.gif she must have a handsome father http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/wink.gif
Sini, your daughter looks just like you
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So you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking
Racing around to come up behind you again.
The sun is the same in a relative way but you're older,
Shorter of breath and one day closer to death.

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[MAC]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Psychotic _ Bitch:

..and don't judge him for something I did .

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That is absolutely the best thing I've heard all day long.
No child is responsible for the parents actions.
But the parent is responsible for the child. You embody that. I love it.

Thank you dear lady.
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And Flit, that sounds a little familiar to me. My mom said something very similar.
You could start a thread in lessons and discuss it if you wanted. I'd like to see where it comes from. I know where it goes http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/frown.gif


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[squee]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Sinister Her:
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She must be half Yankee. Her eyes aren't crossed and I don't see any evidence of mullet formation.

This one might be a keeper http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/smile.gif

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[Flit]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by theMAC:
And Flit, that sounds a little familiar to me. My mom said something very similar.
You could start a thread in lessons and discuss it if you wanted. I'd like to see where it comes from. I know where it goes http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/frown.gif
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Thanks theMac...I'm on the road for the rest of this week...I'll work on getting my feelings into words.

[PB]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by theMAC:
<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Psychotic _ Bitch:

..and don't judge him for something I did .

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That is absolutely the best thing I've heard all day long.
No child is responsible for the parents actions.
But the parent is responsible for the child. You embody that. I love it.

Thank you dear lady.
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Thank you kind sir... It is by far one of those statements that I must live my life by. I have run into alot of people that judge him for the decisions that I made. Atleast I was strong enough to stand good and be responsible for those choices. But I hate that some people will never get past their own ignorance to realize the same.


one more thing... Mac.. you aren't too far from where I live, so one day we must still RW, and you bring Mrs.Mac and we shall have to all go to dinner some day.. it would be an honor to meet you. http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/biggrin.gif

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[Deadpool]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Sinister Her:
I had typed this seven paragraphed reply and IE somehow ate it. While I was rebooting I realized that none of this matters. This

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GOOD GOD IT'S A MINI-SINI!!
Run for the hills!


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Fuck you I wont do what you tell me. -RATM