relationships... are they necessary?

[Asmodeus]

Call me a self proclaimed abbot of bachelorhood, but that idealogical thing caled relationships(i.e. marriage) to me, seems to do more harm than good.

I have no idea how many friends I have had that met someone, "fell in love", left, got shit-canned by the person they love, and was never the same after. For example: one of the colleges I used to attend we had a pseudo forum there called Smoker's Cove. Our group ranged from 8 to 15 nefarious individuals discussing subjects ranging alphabetically from aardvarks to zylaphones, but usually our discussion centered around sex, drugs, rock and roll, speed, weed, and birth-control(mushrooms and dildoes was our most favorite and what made us famous-infamous- with the school).

What was my point to all this? Ahh, now I remember:

Us individuals, all of whom, at the beginning, were single. Then, later, it seemed exponential at times, they began getting boyfriends or girlfriends, sometimes both. The group shuddered and shook but still withstood.

We continued, though at a diminished scale and enrollment. Because of the "relationship" thing, most of the group could not come to Smoker's Cove with the others at the regular time because their "other" wanted them to do something.

This bit some hairy, unwashed ass, but we continued.

Well, as it was inevitable, two of the fulltime members of Smoker's Cover became involved(two of our favorites by the way) and things went to hell in a hand basket, or the shit hit the fan, or whatever addage you wish to use. Their lack of propriety sent spasms throughout the group, pitting one side against the other. It split us.

They were both our friends, and thus, was not really our place to tell them to break it off and get over it. The group suffered because of their indescretion.

Smoker's Cove is now a memory.

The point: why is it that relationships seem to hurt individuals and friends more than it does to help them? I have met precious few relationships that have actually been for the best for all involved, the two concerned and their friends collectivly.

So, then, why does it continue? Is it some need for self-gratification to have a boyfriend or girlfriend that no one else has? I am not discussing love at this time so don't go there. Or, is the relationship thing some in-bred thing about security?

Tell me people. I would like other opinions on this. Mine seems to be a tad bit different and not socially acceptable.

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Good shot...shoot him again.

[King Bastard]

To me, a relationship is a for of fellowship, where the parties involved relate, hence the term.

Sorry to hear that your group spilt up because of that, but it seems to me that if the rest of you people NOT invloved in that relationship had just stayed neutral throughout the whole thing, you still might be meeting together.

I know of what I speak here. I had to sit and watch a lifelong friend argueing with his wife, a woman I only knew for a few years. I took no sides based no who I knew longer, only on what each person did. and in the end, what I had to say about any of it made no nevermind, it was all about them in the first place.

To say that relationships, of any knid, are worthless or have no value other than a security blanket is silly. The reward of teaming up with another person to face all the challenges and gifts that life has to offer are many. They far outweigh the risk.

This si coming from a guy who got divorced from his High School sweetheart. A woman ( used loosely, loosely used) for whom I'd have commited any crime, suffered any toture. Even though I went through that kind of loss, and had to suffer the new marrige, my son calling the new guy Dad... All that is ok. Because if I never went ahead and took the risk, I wouldnt have all the good things I do to this day, including but not limited to my outlook on life.

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