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jules
10-25-2005, 03:29 PM
Matt had to leave for Chicago (home) last night.
After two months of having him live with me, this morning was very difficult. I stood up and looked around for a few seconds before realizing he's gone. It was so disconcerting I had to lay back down.
He got here soon after I did. I have spent very little time alone here. For the first time in my life, I have NO ONE I love within a day's drive of me, and I don't know what to do about it.
I have a feeling the next few weeks are going to be tough ones.
Escape Artist
10-25-2005, 06:48 PM
Had a similarly rough time returning from Oregon - had spent around 2 months out there.
Plane trip back was a hellish experience I'm not sure I want to experience again.
Parting is such sweet sorrow, I guess.
Pianomahnn
10-26-2005, 04:23 AM
You'll get used to living alone.
Sometimes just the sound of that certain someone's voice is enough to carry you through the rough times.
Skeet
10-26-2005, 08:29 AM
Need puppy. Worked for me.
I can't have a puppy. :-( I did join a Gym, and got a nationwide cell phone plan. We also sent letters through snail mail and packages.
Last month I got him a rubber chicken. We take turns doing something nifty with it. For the 31st the chicken is dressing up as Kirmit the Frog.
Still sucks though.
jules
10-26-2005, 06:28 PM
He left Monday night around 8 with a promise to call when he stopped to sleep. I haven't yet heard from him, and his phone kicks straight to voicemail. While I do have a tendency to worry more than I should, I am getting more and more anxious by the hour. If I don't hear from him by tonight, I think I am going to call his house and see if his family has... I can't function when all I can do is worry.
jules
10-26-2005, 11:12 PM
He's okay.
He didn't sleep the night before he left. I urged him to just stay one more night and leave in the morning so he wouldn't crash and die, but he "had to leave."
Apparently he drove for a few hours, fell asleep in a parking lot for a while, drove to a hotel and was asleep until noon today.
"I should have listened to you."
if I had a dime for every time somebody told me that... :p
Pianomahnn
10-27-2005, 03:11 AM
He left Monday night around 8 with a promise to call when he stopped to sleep. I haven't yet heard from him, and his phone kicks straight to voicemail. While I do have a tendency to worry more than I should, I am getting more and more anxious by the hour. If I don't hear from him by tonight, I think I am going to call his house and see if his family has... I can't function when all I can do is worry.
If you weren't worrying...then I'd worry about you.
I have an overzealous worrying/anxiety thing. Gets the best of me sometimes...at least your worry was somewhat expected. Sometimes I just worry for, well, who the hell knows!!
Skeet
10-27-2005, 08:24 AM
...
Suicide is the only option at this point.
No puppy?
Suicide.
I can't have a puppy.
Long distance relationships never usually work out. Sorry to put that awful truth out there. It's happened to me before.
jules
11-08-2005, 10:58 PM
We're less than a week away from 6 mos, and 4 of those were spent seeing each other once a month or less often.
What's "working out" mean? I don't expect it's likely for me to be with him forever, especially considering it's my first "real" relationship. But, hell, it's worked out for this long and things are still going well. If it ends in another six months, then that's about on par with most "short distance" relationships.
Even if it were to end tomorrow, I think it "worked out" and don't regret a second of the time I spent with him-- physically or emotionally.
Pianomahnn
11-08-2005, 11:11 PM
Just make sure it "works out" long enough for you to visit him in Chicago.
And by visit him in Chicago I mean come up here and do some plastic climbing with me. Cuz I'm cool. :)
Koliedrus
11-09-2005, 12:23 AM
Understand, also, that the pain is not new.
http://www.thehypertribe.net/forum/showthread.php?t=2240
There may be some wisdom in there. Have a read.
Pianomahnn
11-09-2005, 04:26 AM
Look at those people who were posting in there...
Those people are so much cooler than the lot of you.
sauron
11-09-2005, 02:21 PM
I was in a long distance relationship for the greater part of 2.5 years - we started out as friends, got to know eachother better, on to the point where we had actual feelings about eachother...
The distance: 2200 miles.
A lot of things happened that ended our close relationship - we still remain friends (I suspect, at this point she's the longest friendship I've had that I still talk to semi-regularily) - and there's still days when I wonder what would happen if we picked things back up where they left off.
- d.
Solstice_Gray
11-10-2005, 05:32 AM
Two and a half years, over 2,000 miles. Spiffy.
jules
11-10-2005, 07:15 AM
and met on the interweb!
We're less than a week away from 6 mos, and 4 of those were spent seeing each other once a month or less often.
What's "working out" mean? I don't expect it's likely for me to be with him forever, especially considering it's my first "real" relationship. But, hell, it's worked out for this long and things are still going well. If it ends in another six months, then that's about on par with most "short distance" relationships.
Even if it were to end tomorrow, I think it "worked out" and don't regret a second of the time I spent with him-- physically or emotionally.
I'd just like to say I didn't want to be an ass (like Skeet ;)) and try and make you feel bad. I just wanted to state I've been there before, and it didn't work out for me.
Hope everything works out great though. From what I've read from you, you sound like a great person who deserves a good guy in her life.
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