sleeping over

[mute]

I am confused to this ancient old mystery of 'sleeping over'.

There seems to be no conclusion on this question like mnay other questions ie. 'The meaning of life.' To put it so boldly.

This coming from a male perspective, pretty much questioning the female's. What's the big deal if we don't fall asleep at the same time, and/or what's the big deal about staying over. It is indeed nice to sleep in the same bed, but sometimes you're not tired and many other things.

So, what is so mysterious about this age old question? Where are the answers Holmes?

On another note:

Rock on! :rockon:

[Mudflap]

In general, women want to believe and feel that men like them for reasons other than sexual attraction. When a man accepts an invitation into a woman's home, makes love to her in her home, and then scurries off to his own home to play video games, he has sent her the message that he was only interested in her for sex.

This greatly pains the female ego and can have dire consequences.

If you want to bump uglies and then enjoy some solitude, buy a hooker. Its much more honest.

[GLENDOWER]

Sleeping over is a comfort thing. For some women, it is also a feeling of security if not closure, especially after sex.

[MAC]

Now, I hate to go all Sister Taffy (http://www.landoverbaptist.org/) on you here, but I'm pretty sure that sleeping-over with someone you aren't married to gets you damned to hell for all eternity.

But if falling into a lake of fire and suffering unspeakable torment for all time doesn't bother you then I must remind you to NEVER sleep over if she doesn't have some OJ or other suitable breakfast juice around for in the morning.
You can't be your best without juice to start your day.

Since you brought it up, mute, just what do you have to do that's more important than spending an evening with this girl or that couldn't wait one night?

[skalie]

If you want to go play video games after a bit of "how's your father" breach a touchy subject, encourage an argument then walk out in anger.

When you feel like sex again turn up with some flowers, make up, make love with all the added emotion helping to stoke the file.

Repeat step 1.

[MAC]

*snip* helping to stoke the file.



that must be some weird Danish roll-playing thing where she dresses like a secretary and you dress like a package delivery boy and you get it on in the copy room with the xerox machine capturign everything

[skalie]

nothing weird about that

[GLENDOWER]

Until the glass breaks on the Xerox machine and the two of you have to be admitted to the ER explaining how this happened- then again, you are already dressed for the occasion, might as well throw a nurse into the "file".
…just be sure to sleep over at the end of this day.

[Mae]

I am of two minds about this.

1) Snuggle for all of ten minutes, wait til he takes a nap, shower and then go read a book. Who cares if he stays over? I would only invite him to stay if we had plans the next day.

2) While the comfort of sleeping with someone you truly love is something amazing... GIVE ME MY DAMN BED BACK!!! Who died and said you could have my covers? And why do you have to sleep so freakin' hot? There might as well be a sauna in the middle of my bed...


Um, I guess I don't seee the big deal either. Good luck.

[mute]

One too many assumptions from guys who think they kow more than the fat fugly pigs from band class.

The only reason I didn't stay over is because I wasn't tired. It was 12am and I'm on a night schedule because of my job. She is not. Atleast I give an effort to spend time with her. And I left plenty of time (couple of hours) after sex. I couldn't stay and watch TV, read a book or do anything for that matter because I would have woken her up plenty of times. Plus I was up until 8am. I tried doing the right thing so she could get a good nights sleep because she had to wake up at 8am for work.

Jesus all mighty christ, sometimes I hate having to explain my exact situation so people won't think I simple went home to play video games.

[MAC]

*snip*

And why do you have to sleep so freakin' hot? There might as well be a sauna in the middle of my bed...

*snip*



this brings up another good point: most women have ice water for blood and their feet average 22deg F on the skin.

So, if you find one with nice warm feet who seems to thermo regulate about like you do, definately stay the night. It'll be some of the best sleep you ever get. (plus hot feet = sexah!)

As for Mute's Logistical Love Dilemma: did she understand the deal or was she upset that you are on a night schedule and she is on a day schedule and that you would hav eliked to have stayed with her? Because it sounds like you did the right thing by her if she understood.

But did she understand?

Or should you have rolled over and gone to sleep?

[mute]

hehe, ya she understood. I did try to sleep there but I was just wide awake. At first she didn't understand, but with my sweet charm and good reasoning ( :rolleyes2 ) skills she ended up happy and smiling.

[Mudflap]

with my sweet charm and good reasoning ( :rolleyes2 ) skills she ended up happy and smiling.

You're supposed to use your penis, ya big stupid.

[mute]

You're supposed to use your penis, ya big stupid.

Already did.

[Mudflap]

*golf clap*

[ms. bing]

i don't really like sleeping over. i didn't really like sleeping with my husband, either. i just sleep better by myself. i've never been able to sleep well in any bed other than my own, and i don't enjoy my bed as much when i'm sharing it.
maybe that will be the ultimate test for my soul mate, whether or not we can actually get a good night's sleep in the same bed.

[SimpleSimon]

Buy twin beds, bing. Nothing says you must sleep with someone.

[GLENDOWER]

The real test was if he is okay with the big honking body pillow that I like to sleep with between my knees. One was actually jealous of the thing. It’s gone now- just too complicated.