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Barbie
09-10-2004, 05:52 PM
GOOD FRIENDS (from the net, I know you'all have seen it) :joshers:

In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.

In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls.

In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.

In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus

In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-do-ing with Nasty Nicky or Smelly Susan.

In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.

In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Nicky or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.

In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had.

In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.

In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.

In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.

In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom.

In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college/university, assured you that you would get into that college/university, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go...

At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.

The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Nick or you and Susan were back together, you could make it through anything, helped you pack up for university and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to give you reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.

Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!

Pass on to those friends of the past, and those of the future...and those you have met along the way...

[crying yet? oh there's more]

Thank you for being a friend. No matter where we go or who we become, never forget who helped us get there.

There's never a wrong time to pick up a phone or send a message telling your friends how much you miss them or how much you love them.

You know who you are, pass it on to someone who you want to remind.

So send this to all your friends and maybe those who aren't but just watch and see who sends it back.

If you love someone, tell them. Remember always to say what you mean.

Never be afraid to express yourself. Take this opportunity to tell someone what they mean to you. Seize the day and have no regrets.

Most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they have helped make you the person that you are today and are what it's all about anyway. Pass this along to your day and theirs.

The difference between expressing love and having regrets is that the regrets may stay around forever.

ms. bing
09-11-2004, 06:48 PM
when i was in kindegarten my good friends were just the kids i played with on our block.
when i was in first grade my good friends were those that rode the bus with me.
when i was in second grade my good friends were the first kids who would talk to the "yankee".
lets skip forward a few years.
when i was 14 or 15 all those old friends went by the wayside as our lives became too different to have much in common anymore. cultural differences that meant little to nothing at age 7 meant a lot as we were becoming the person we would be as adults (so much for parents fearing that what friends teach overrule what they teach).
when i was 18 my friends were the people i hung out with and did drugs with.
when i was 19 all those friends sucked.
when i was 21 all my friends were my husband's friends because he didn't like me to hang out with my friends. they were a bad influence.
when i was 24 my good friends were the ones that put up with me when i couldn't pay my rent and held my hand when i found out i was pregnant.
when i was 25 my good friends were good friends again that i will have the rest of my life. that's also when i moved back to texas, where basically all i had was mac, and left my good friends forever.
when i was 26 i found out who my friends were. they were the ones who made an effort to keep in touch. most of them were from my 20s, with the exception of mac and rw.
so where would that leave me in the scope of your little email forward? i have no childhood friends except mac and rw. mac's related and rw may as well be. i've known him since i was 13.
i believe most people, especially the ones who moved more than once as kids, have the same experience to some extent. very few people have childhood friends anymore. we have several recessions and the climbing divorce rate to thank for that.
where does everyone else here stand?

mute
09-15-2004, 04:46 AM
cheers.

Asmodeus
10-10-2004, 05:29 AM
What are friends?

Koliedrus
10-10-2004, 07:59 AM
What are friends?

Friends know when to leave you alone or stay in touch.

Friends care about your life and think about you.

Friends do what they can when you need them.

Friends don't always stay in contact even though they think about each other often.

Friends give a shit.

Asmodeus
10-10-2004, 03:19 PM
You mean people still do that kind of stuff? kidding.

Sorry for the cynicism, but is has been so long since I have had a face to face friend that I am starting to wonder. For the past few(quite a few) years, the only true friends I have had are here. But reading their words rather than hearing them in person is not quite the same.

Koliedrus
10-11-2004, 08:33 PM
The Hyperjump was a life changing leap of faith. It was also somewhat of a disappointment to those who attended. We wished that others would have been there with us. We knew that fear was a major factor. We were afraid not only of falling from a great height but also of meeting each other for the first time.

Both of those fears were dealt with.

Gathering a large group in one place at one time is (as we have learned) a difficult endeavor. Especially when involves risking life and limb. I think the Hyperjumpers understand that aspect of meeting friends that we've known for years.

I offer this:

Choose a place and a time. I'll do what I can to make it happen even if I can't attend.

I DO want to attend. I'll be there with my family if circumstances allow.

Start thinking about places near you and what you can or cannot do before offering up a suggestion.

Be ready to supply personal contact information once you present an idea.

Hyperjump I was phenomenal.
Hyperjump II is up to you now.

For the record, I'm ok with spelunking but I may need help with scuba. Like, an on-site shrink.

Hot air balloons?

You decide. I tend to lean toward the sky.

Mudflap
10-11-2004, 09:08 PM
Everyone should meet in Tyler, TX next week and help me & PB move into our new house.

Koliedrus
10-11-2004, 09:26 PM
Everyone should meet in Tyler, TX next week and help me & PB move into our new house.

That's a perfect example of how NOT to plan the second Jump.

Not enough time is allowed for participants to make schedule changes, the event isn't something you would do if your reward was beer and pizza and you're looking to get away from stuff you do all the time.

New house?

Hot damn!

ms. bing
10-11-2004, 10:53 PM
how do the tribals feel about a mexican vacation some time after dec. 13th?

Asmodeus
10-12-2004, 12:06 AM
If it's in Feb I might be able to swing it...

Koliedrus
10-12-2004, 12:58 AM
We chose Jump Point #1 by averaging travel distances for all who wanted to attend.

It turned out to be more expensive than it should have been. We could have skydived much closer to our homes but we chose and went through with it.

If you're interested in attending Jump #2, email me (Koliedrus@yahoo.com) with enough info so I can place you. You don't need to provide an exact address. City and State will do just fine for now. If I need more info, I'll ask you.

Personally, I'd still like for us to rent a chalet in the Smoky Mounains but if the majority votes for Mexico, I'll do what I can to save up.

I had my jump. This one is yours. I'll still help.

Billyman
10-12-2004, 01:20 AM
I don't speak Spanish, it's hot in Mexico and I hear it smells a bit funny.

No Mexico for me.

Koliedrus
10-12-2004, 01:42 AM
Feb 18-21 has potential...

I won't bark like a dog this time. Either it will happen or it won't.
Onece I see some honest interest, bet you ass on my motivation to see it done.

Check your calendars and see if that's workable for you. If not, suggest something else and we'll get back with you.

Fair?

Barbie
10-12-2004, 07:07 PM
I'M IN FOR CANCUN!!!

Cruise Director
10-12-2004, 08:12 PM
I would like to point out that you fine folks are de-railing a thread in my favorite forum. (Okay, maybe just changing tracks, but still.... :) )

I just got home from a trip to Jamaica with one of my best friends in the World. I met her in college and we were instant friends. Unfortunately, she moved to Maine about a decade ago and we have been unable to see each other face-to-face since that time. We do talk on the phone a lot and through both of our life changes, we have remained the best of friends. A few things that are relevant to this thread that I share with her:

1.) There is nothing in this World I would not do for this woman.
2.) We have not seen each other in a decade but picked right up where we left off when we did.
3.) I can talk to this person about anything, and at any time of the day.
4.) I can sit in a room with this person and say absolutely nothing to each other for hours and know that everything is still okay.
5.) I know that these feelings are reciprocated without having to ask.

I think 4 and 5 are the true test of a friendship. I know that might be a little weird but silence amongst friends can be a good indicator of comfort.